Crafting Solutions to Conflict
Ready for practical and positive perspectives on conflict? Join host Jane Beddall, M.A., J.D., to explore ways to preserve and restore harmony by preventing or limiting conflicts that may damage valued relationships and to effectively resolve those that may occur. We will talk about elephants in the room, expanding pies, the problem with cookie cutters, and much more. If you don’t know what those things mean, you will enjoy learning about them. If you do know them, you will be able to expand your understanding with some new points of view to consider. Would you like to le...
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Sarah Walker on enhancing well-being through interior design
<p>Sarah Walker joins me to talk about the role that our homes play in our day-to-day wellbeing. Sarah describes how interior design can support rest, focus, and recovery in our homes. And we talk about planning for the evolution that families go through over time and how to plan spaces that will be welcoming to all generations, whether short-term visitors, permanent residents, and in-between. </p> <p> You can learn more about Sarah’s work – and see some beautiful spaces – at https://nuanceinteriors.com/. You can follow her company on Instagram here: @nuanceinteriors. She can be found on LinkedIn here: https://www.linke...
The challenge of positive body language
<p>We’ve been encouraged to embrace active listening. Sure. But we need to be genuine, not engaging in actions or behaviors that aren’t ours. </p> <p>It’s not helpful to adopt gestures that we have been told to use, yet feel foreign to us. </p> <p> Not only do you run the risk that I will see through your acting, but some of your focus will be devoted to the acting – not to the actual listening.</p> <p> What should we do?</p> <p> Of course, look at someone when they are speaking, but don’t stare them down. </p> <p> Of...
Quitting while you are behind
<p>Why quit while you are behind? Because if you continue the fight, you may dig a deeper hole for yourself. Possibilities for a small loss can become a bigger one when those with the upper hand become angry or frustrated. Because you may say or do things that brand you a sore loser. Because the sting of the experience can become greater for the other person without lessening your own pain.</p> <p>And if you will be in a continuing relationship, consider what you can learn from this loss. There can be similar disagreements down the road. Can...
Quitting while you’re ahead and …
<p>It’s not always easy to quit while you are ahead. But, when ongoing relationships matter, it’s worth the effort.</p> <p>How to do it? First, keep a laser focus on the prize. Not the peripheral issues. Let them go. Next, think ahead of time how the “win” might roll out. Consider, individually and within a faction, how to respond – including by saying nothing. Adopt a long view. Try to accept a win graciously. Allow everyone to move on. When emotions are high, keep words and actions in check, and allow some healing to begin. </p> <p>Do you have...
Sherri Noxel on the challenges of family farms
<p>Sherri Noxel joins me today to talk about the challenges of family farms. These family businesses encounter the familiar ones – including the role of nonfamily employees, succession planning, and addressing legacy issues. They also face circumstances not commonly found in other industries, most importantly, their special connection to the land where they work and, frequently, also live.</p> <p>You can learn more about Sherri and her work here: https://www.enterprisinggenerations.com/</p> <p>Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at ...
Conflicting money perspectives about giving
<p>We can have very different views about </p> <p>charitable giving and that can lead to conflict.</p> <p>Magic, easy answers will be elusive. But a few reminders can help. Know your own priorities and values and be true to them.</p> <p> First, don’t be the passionate supporter who becomes the pushy one. If you are on the receiving end of the pushiness, you can decline politely – and completely. Or you can choose to give a more modest amount; in some situations –especially alumni giving – the percentage of eligible donors who contribute is important.</p> <p> If the cause is one...
Conflicting money perspectives about spending
<p>Fundamentally, it’s best to avoid a conflict. We are not required to form judgments about other people’s spending. We can let that go and focus on other things. And if we do form judgments, we can keep them to ourselves.</p> <p>Both because we don’t know everything and because it’s not our job to judge. </p> <p>Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea or question about conflict management or conflict resolution? Let me know at jb@dovetailresolutions.com! And you can learn more about me and my work as a m...
Conflicting money perspectives about income
<p>We can have attitudes about other people’s income sources. And we can consider if and how we share our thoughts. Going back to my most recent guest, Natalie WagnerWillis: we need to be clear on our own priorities and values. How they apply to us internally, and how they connect us to others. Just labelling the other perspectives as wrong is unhelpful. Better to have both a clear understanding of one’s one perspective and an openness to learning about the perspectives of others.</p> <p>Do you have comments or suggestions about a topic or guest? An idea...
Natalie WagnerWillis on crafting a right relationship with yourself and money
<p>Natalie WagnerWillis is my guest. Natalie is a certified money coach and Finologist. Her father, Dick Wagner, was the original Finologist. Natalie shares her origin story and how she has developed and refined her own understanding of how we can better understand our internal relationship with money andour connection with the rest of the world through the exchange of money. </p> <p>You can learn more about Natalie’s work, try a money type quiz, and more at her website: https://vitalfinancials.com/ . You can find Natalie on LinkedIn here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/natalie-wagnerwillis-bb31502b/</p> <p>Do you...
Collaborative Practice -- application
<p>The International Academy of Collaborative Professionals offers this definition: “Collaborative Practice is a voluntary dispute resolution process in which parties settle without resort to litigation.” “Each party must be represented by a lawyer whose representation terminates upon the undertaking of any contested court proceeding.” https://www.collaborativepractice.com/</p> <p>On the face of it, this sounds a lot like mediation. How is it different? Most important, mediation involves an impartial third party, a mediator. Attorneys may or may not be present. In Collaborative Practice, there is no mediator. And attorneys are always present. In fact, the key point is that ev...
